I used to make a list in my head of everything I’d change about how I look, if I could just click my heels and make it happen. This ritual often helped me fall asleep at night when I was too full of insecurities. …

We were watching TV. “Wow, she has really let herself go,” he says about an actress. “What do you mean?” I replied. “She looks so…different.” What are we to do as women? How do we navigate a world that tries to destroy us but calls us weak when we are…

Let go. Let go of the dreams that are holding you back. Let go of the painful idea of wasted time. There is only today. If you are angry or hurt or fearful, lie with it, embrace it, feel it and surrender to it. …